Okay, so forgive the golfing analogy here (I grew up watching way too much of it)
So you know when a golfer hits the ball into the sand trap? They try and get it out, but they swing and just send sand everywhere without touching the ball? So they try again, and this time they manage to hit the ball, but it just banks against the edge landing in the same spot? Over and over the golfer tries to get out of the sand trap, but unless you’re Phil Mickelson the likelihood you are going to end up covered in sand, still stuck in the trap, and one golf club thrown into the water trap near-by (either that or bent in half from repeatedly beating it against the ground in frustration).
Sometimes I feel like this is where I am headed. I am the golfer who is newly stuck in the sand trap. Or rut, or at the bottom of a really large wall, or stuck in between two cars who parallel parked way too close. Get the point? This mama is bumming. Here is the thing; we are about ½ ways through this deployment. This is a pretty standard occurrence for me during each and every one of the Hubs deployment. (Let’s be real, being a single mom is super hard. I have mad respect for those who do it full time all the time. Even with Kim here, I am still finding myself hitting the ½ ways slump.)
At some point I reach a point where I spend a few days to a few weeks feeling stuck. I don’t want to go out, I find myself making excuses to not go to things. Sure the excuses are always there, but that doesn’t mean I have to keep giving into them. So what if Squishy is crabby, who cares if the insomnia is getting to me, or the daily headache is getting to be a little much… I could and should push through and do the normal everyday things we have planned, but lately I have just not been feeling it at all. I’m not sleeping well at all, I am not eating as well as I should, I can’t seem to kick my diet coke habit (no matter how hard I try) and at this point I am seriously considering coffee (which I hate) just to help me make it through the day without feeling like a zombie.
Great, you are all probably reading this and wondering, “Why is this lady whining again??” Well here is the thing. I have tried all my go to “swings” but I am still stuck in this sand trap. I would prefer not to end up buried in the sand, so I ask you, what do you do to get out of a rut? How do you reset your soul? I would love to hear someone new ideas, or tricks to add to my bag.
At the end of this week I will be taking a much needed trip to see my family. My wonderful and amazing mother is celebrating a huge birthday, and for once I actually get to be there. Living so far from all of my family, and my in-laws isn’t exactly ideal, but it is what it is. I am hoping this trip will really help me comeback and be refreshed.
Sorry for venting. I promise to get back to my regular posting tomorrow.
Oh, and if you were just looking for a daily Squishy dose – check out my super cute dancing dude. Yes, he is dancing to Run-DMC, and yes, he loves that penguin. Judge me if you will, but if your little man was getting down the way Squish was here, you would let him listen to Run DMC too!! He is the light of my everyday! Love this little dancing Squishy!
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Amanda & Colby says
I hear you on feeling stuck…my hubs works so much that I feel like a single parent as well.
I ask a lot of people what they do, and I always get varied solutions.
Sometimes I having the full weight of parent on my shoulders wears me down soo bad, as you are feeling. Like you I just want to bury my head in the sand. I don't really have a cure all solution for this feeling, however, I find doing things I love helps.
I try to write about how I feel, which often helps me make sense of everything. Perhaps even taking a couple hours a week for yourself would help. I often think that if I only could take a couple hours and get a massage I would feel better.
I hope you get our of your rut, but if you still find yourself stuck I am here and feeling a lot of the same feelings! Diet Coke and all! So give me a shout out and vent away 🙂
Emily says
Aw! Thanks mama! Just having you say all that makes me feel a bit better! Glad we are bloggy buddies! 🙂
Amanda & Colby says
Me too 😉
Marissa says
Sorry that you're going through this feeling of being "stuck". My husband is gone a lot with work and I know the ONLY thing that helps me, is being around family and friends-but you said family is not close in your case. 🙁 Maybe getting out of the house, dusting yourself off and just making yourself go do things will help? I know when I'm feeling down and I just get dressed, load the kids up and get out of the house, it helps too! Hope you find a solution, that's never a fun way to feel! HANG IN THERE 🙂
Sippy Cup Mom says
Like Amanda said, I'm here if you ever need to vent and you know you have a ton of blogging buddies out there! 😉
Do whatever you can for yourself, you do have a lot of weight on your shoulders but you're doing awesome and Squish has a great mama!
I'm so happy you get to go see your family, you are going to have a great time!
Jill says
Hello! Your son is adorable! I found your blog through Mama's Little Nestwork and I love it. I can't wait to read future posts. I'm your newest follower.
Jill
http://meetthedubiens.blogspot.com/
Becca says
I am so sorry you're feeling "stuck" but it is completely understandable given your situation. Like others said, remember to make time for "Emily time" and do something to help yourself unwind! I'm here if you ever need to vent or want to chat…I wish we lived closer because I would be over in a heartbeat!
Hannah says
I am so sorry to hear that you are stuck! I don't know what it is like to have a husband on deployment but I do feel stuck in life sometimes. The thing that gets me through it is really making a conscious effort to look around at my life and focus on the positive. When you start your day say to yourself you are going to look for the good in everything today! It isn't easy but it really does help, even noticing the little blessings can make a day so much better (sometimes that diet coke might be one) I tired to kick that habit and it didn't work, I wouldn't worry to much about it now, work on getting through this rut first. I hope you feel better soon. You need to take a "me" day and spend it relaxing for a few hours that would probably help too!
"No one can escape stress, but you can learn to cope with it. Practice positive thinking…seize control in small ways."
-Adele Scheele