Sometimes I think as parents we second guess our gut way too much. But really one stray thought is all it takes, and
those awful second thoughts creep into your head, and take over your natural instinct to respond to the situation.
Things have been pretty busy here in Our Vegas household. Squishy is struggling with his Asthma. I will tell you there is not much worse than watching your baby struggle to breathe.
We are now giving him preventive medicine, and he has a new inhaler. I thought it was working well, but this morning he woke up in a fit of coughs, struggling for each breath. Thankfully his rescue inhaler works well.
With the hubs deployed, sometimes this can be just a bit overwhelming. All the decisions are mine to make. All the calls have to be made by me. Yes, I have my SIL here – and she is a great amazing help, but she isn’t Squishy’s parent.
And I can’t imagine the reverse. How my hubs must feel being deployed and not able to be here to help comfort his baby. It breaks my heart to think about that.
If these deployments have taught me anything it is:
- how much I love and appreciate my husband.
- how important it is to trust your instincts.
I know my toddler seems to get sick more often then others. It can be really frustrating when people say “Wow, he gets sick a lot.” I usually just smile and nod, but I want to say, “Really, you know I wasn’t aware, thanks for reminding me!”
And I worry about giving him his inhaler/any meds without first talking/seeing the Doctor first.
I worry about taking him into the Doctor’s office all the time. I don’t want to be labeled as “That Mom”.
So when Squishy woke up having issues breathing, I went ahead and gave him his inhaler right away. Then when it didn’t seem to work, I called my mom for advice. (Moms really are the best!). She reminded me to listen to my gut, and if he was still wheezing after an inhaler, we probably should go in.
When we got there – despite having his inhaler not 1.5 hours earlier, his oxygen level was only 92%. (And yet, he was still trying to play and talk to the doctor…)
The Doctor looked at me, after listening to Squishy’s lungs and said, “You know I am really happy you gave him his inhaler before you came in. You handled it just right. I can’t imagine how bad this would have been if you hadn’t done that.”
I wish more Doctor’s would say that to parents. Tell them they handled the situation exactly perfect. Reassure them they did the right thing. Especially first time parents.
We need to remember to trust our instincts more, and second guess ourselves less.
Now – anyone know how exactly to do that?
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I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. My stepson has asthma and it is so tough. He’s been on meds for a long time and, yes, he’s the little boy who is always sick. He’s 8 now and he’s a trooper about it. Hang in there.
Thanks Danielle. I am sorry to hear your stepson deals with this too – it is so not fun. Thank you for stopping by and leaving some support!
I believe Mommy instincts are always right too. We are the ones that know our little ones best, so we know right away when something is not right. I am so sorry you and Squish have to deal with this. It must have been a huge relief that the doctor said that you are right. I too wish more doctors would say that, and help put parents at ease.
Feel better Squish.
Thanks Lolo. I will tell Squish you all send well wishes!
Wow, you are amazing! It’s always nice to come across those doctors who trust the parents (even when the parents don’t trust themselves), and get 100% behind the parent. And mommy instinct rock! I took my dd to the hospital twice before they finally found the broken collar bone. I KNEW something was wrong!
Adelina – Love that you trusted your instincts too! Good for you for pushing the issue. I hope your DD healed quickly – poor baby! Thanks for the kind words.
I am so sorry you have to go through seeing your baby struggle. That is never easy. Good for you for listening to your instincts and good for the doctor giving you that validation!
Thanks Brenna, it definitely isn’t fun, but it is what it is. 🙂
This is a great post Emily and you’re so right. I think Motherly instincts are so strong. I’m so glad you brought him in and your’e right, I wish more doctors would say that. I’m *that* mom too and it’s frustrating but better safe than sorry right?
Yes, I totally agree better safe than sorry. And honestly being That mom isn’t that bad bc we are our children’s biggest advocates. So in reality it is a good thing right?
Doctors do need to be more supportive of parents…We’re with our kids so much more than they are, we should be able to trust ourselves more. I love our pediatrician since she is a mom too and knows what we’re going through!
Oh that is nice you have such an understanding Pedi. It makes it a lot easier! Thanks Colleen.
Emily, thanks. She did heal quickly.
I so know how you feel! My daughter is an asthmatic as well…it is so hard. Her pedi said she wasn’t ashmatic for years, as I told her she was,…..sounding like “that mom”. Finally took her to an allergist and found out she had it….and wasn’t being treated properly for years because the dr didn’t listen to MY first instinct.
I still forget to trust my insticts sometimes, even with three kiddos. I still call my Mom for advice too. 🙂 I’m a new follower via GFC.
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I think when we “grow up” to be grandparents we’ll be able to trust our instincts! I guess that’s the wisdom we’ll pick up along the way.