This is the question I was asked last week. 
BY MY MANICURIST!
Sure, we have all been asked by our family members, and even friends get a pass here. Caring minds do want to know.
But I have to draw a line when my manicurist asks me!
Last week I sneaked away during Squishy’s nap and headed over to the nail salon.
I don’t do it very often, but when I can I really love to have a mani/pedi. Especially that new gel manicure. It lasts so much longer than than the regular polish….
But I digress…
So I am sitting there and the nail guy says “That is a pretty wedding ring, how old are your children?”
Two things ran through my head:
- I’m sorry – I don’t know you AT ALL.
- I didn’t realize the two were directly connected. Hey – this lady is wearing a wedding ring, she must have children?
“He’s almost three.”
“So when are you going to have another baby?”
“Umm… Uhh…”
“You really shouldn’t wait at your age.”
WHAT?!
Here is the thing.
I want another baby more than anything right now. WE want another baby.
But it isn’t the right time for our family.
I know in my heart we will be adding to our family, but not right now.
I see friends announce second, third, fourth pregnancies. I am over the moon for them.
But OH MY OVARIES!
I have to be honest, I love seeing the pictures of the adorable bumps, sweet ultrasound pictures, and smooshy newborn goodness.
But it is also hard.
I can’t help but wonder when it will be my turn again.
I wonder about growing our family enough for a million strangers.
I don’t need the guy behind the nail counter at the salon asking me about my family planning process.
What ever happened to “How was your week?”
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Hi love, I saw your tweet come through my feed this morning and had to pop over and send a cyber hug. I really get this, I don’t think people mean any harm but it’s just so inappropriate and unhelpful. xx
Thanks Louisa! You are a dear! Yes, I do think it is mostly harmless, but it does really open a whole back of worms when asked the way he did. Not to mention – he said at “My Age” – LOL didn’t realize 30 was old!! I think the better question to ask if you have to ask is would you like more children as opposed to when are you having another and following it up with a warning on time. <3
I think it’s rude to ask complete strangers about their reproductive plans, and incredibly rude that he commented on your age! I get asked that question a lot too, since I only have 1 child. I think it’s hard for a lot of people to accept that there’s nothing wrong with having one child. I would have responded to him “I didn’t know that I NEED to have another baby?” LOL 🙂
That would have been a good response! Thanks Jennifer!
I keep getting asked if I’ll try for a girl…um, none of anyone’s business (and really? who cares about the gender, why would I have another child just to have a girl)…people need to stop with those questions.
So did you ask him when he’s going to have a vasectomy?
Zippy! This is the funniest thing I read all week!! Thanks for the laugh!
We have eight kids, but I really don’t think that it is anyone’s business if you are going to have another child or not! I am sorry that someone asked you such a rude question.
Thanks Theresa!
I don’t know why people think that’s a topic that’s any of their business. It’s hard enough when people you know well ask you that, but a relative stranger? What the heck?!
I really think it was funny coming as it did, but it is hard to answer it sometimes.
Some people are just rude! Don’t let the idiots ruin your day.
Wow, I get asking if you have any kids. But directly relating being married and your age to kids, that’s just rude!
on a side note…a mani/pedi sounds really nice right now!
We have one child and don’t plan on having more. I feel like I’m asked this question ALL THE TIME. Oh, this comment could be a hundred words long, but I’ll just leave it at that. 😉 Hang in there. People are nuts.
I kinda want the long version! 🙂 Thanks Sarah!
I always think it’s funny that the people I know the least always ask that question whereas my close friends don’t!
That is very true!!
None of his business is what I have to say! Hubs and I got it for years before we had Baybah. Now they want to know when we are having our next one. Urgh! We will tell you when/if we are pregnant!
I can’t promise I won’t keep wondering! 🙂 But you are right!!
People say the darnest things!
That’s a very personal thing to ask.
My new go-to response is “I can’t believe you feel comfortable asking that” though it is hard in practice to say it. What sucks is that what should have been a treat, some pampering, wasn’t relaxing at all!
That is a good answer. I have a new one now too! https://ourknightlife.com/2012/05/big-baby-news-for-our-family.html 🙂